We're obsessed with it. It's everywhere, television, movies, the internet. Our culture is saturated with sex. Teenagers are finding it harder and harder to wait because, quite honestly the messages being sent to them through the media is not one of walking in purity.
So why as a 30 year old woman have I chosen to wait? Why after all these years have I not given into the pressure? What are the reasons I've kept my virginity?
Here are 8 reasons why I've chosen to wait.
1. I'm worth it. I am beautiful and valuable in the eyes of the Lord Jesus. My virginity is a one time gift that I will give away someday and I long to give that gift to my husband. It's something that I cherish. The right person will cherish that gift too. They'll see me for who I am in the eyes of Jesus, not for what they can get from me.
2. I trust that God's design is best. In a world where the cultural pressures to have sex are rampant I believe that God's design for sex is best. God created sex, therefore, sex is good, but God has set certain boundaries for sex that He desires us to live out. Not to restrict us, but to protect us and to bless us. The bible is quite clear that anything other than sex inside of marriage is wrong. Sex inside a committed marriage is safe, there's no risk of unwanted pregnancy or living with regret. God will bless sex inside a marriage, but He will not bless sex outside of marriage.
3. I love Jesus. As I've walked closely with Him and sought hard after His will for my life He's grown a heart of love so deep in me the thought of having sex before marriage is almost unthinkable. To me, Jesus, is like a well that never runs dry. He's like a spring of cool water always quenching my thirst. I long for Him. I love Him. I want to please Him.
4. My worth and value are in Christ, not in a man. A lot of young girls look to guys to fill a deep longing for love in their souls. I've found that the only person that can satisfy the deep longings of my soul is Jesus. If I give myself sexually to a man it will not satisfy the deep longings of my heart to be affirmed as beautiful, worthy and valuable. It might momentarily, but in the end I will only feel shame and regret for exposing myself so intimately with someone who is not my husband.
5. I've chosen not to believe the lie that the guy I'm dating is going to be my husband so its ok if we have sex. I almost gave in because of this lie. I allowed this lie to control my thought life in previous relationships, but since then I have repented of those impure thoughts and sought the Lord for healing. I would tell myself I'm not doing it physically so its OK if I think about it, because he's going to be my husband anyways. Once that relationship ended I was brought face to face with my sin of lust. Since then every time an impure thought wants to enter my mind I quote Philippians 4:6-7. I've asked for God to transform my mind and He certainly has. Now, as I look at being married in less than three months I very easily could buy into the same lie, but I choose not too, because quite honestly, not only is my purity worth it, but most importantly honoring God is of greatest importance to me.
6. I don't feel because I'm a virgin I've missed out on anything. I know that I have a hope that awaits me in heaven. I have a Savior who welcomes me into His home and I long to see Him face to face. I could die a happy as a virgin as long as I'm headed to see my Savior face to face. I have all the promises of God in the Lord Jesus.
7. I don't want a STD or unwanted pregnancy. God loves me. He's set boundaries for sex inside of marriage for a reason. There are real consequences for sex outside of marriage. I
8. I long to share the gift of my virginity with my husband on my wedding night. I believe there will be no greater gift I can give to my husband on that night. I loved him before I knew him and I chose to wait for him. I believe in the one flesh union of God and I look forward to giving myself fully to my husband without any previous sexual partners. I will have no one else that I have given myself to.
I could go on a little longer I'm sure, but those are eight big reasons why I've chosen to wait. This might not be the case for you, maybe you haven't chosen to wait. Maybe you think I'm crazy for being 30 and a virgin. I'm ok with that. In a world where sex is shoved down our throats I think it could do some good for someone to stand up and say I'm walking in purity and I'm proud of it!
God has a good design for sex. Anything outside of the marriage bed is against His plan for our lives.
Marriage should be honored by all, and the marriage bed kept pure, for God will judge the adulterer and all the sexually immoral.- Hebrews 13:4
The reality is God loves you even though you sin, but that doesn't mean that we should continue on in our sin as if God is ok with it. "Shall we go on sinning that grace my increase, by no means, we died to sin how can we live in it any longer"- Romans 6:1-2
The point is not to get you, as a teenager or even an adult to stop having sex outside of marriage. The point is to get you to see who Jesus Christ is. As you fall more in love with Him and God's word the desires of your heart will change as God starts to align your heart with His.
If you're living in sexual sin will you be brave enough to walk away from it out of love for Jesus Christ and His word?
I'm choosing to wait. I hope you will too. Even if you've already given in to sexual temptation its never too late to make a commitment towards purity. God loves you and wants you to come to Him. Even with all of your junk. He won't turn His face away from you. He wants to make you brand new!
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